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7-step guide to the perfect engagement ring
Engagement rings
Doreen
17 February 2025
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The moment has arrived: you are certain – he or she is the one! The next logical step in your relationship is an engagement. You are completely ready, but how do you actually start the search for the perfect engagement ring? Don't worry! Here we will take you through the process step by step, so that you can make the best choice with confidence. Finding the perfect engagement ring may seem like a challenge, but with our step-by-step plan we make it easy and even fun!
- Decide on your budget
- Choose the style that suits your partner
- Decide on the type of gemstone
- Choose the metal for the ring
- Decide on the ring size
- Personalise and design the ring
- Plan the proposal and surprise your partner
Step 1: Decide on a budget for the engagement ring
Why setting a budget is important
A good budget will help you focus your search and prevent you from becoming overwhelmed by the enormous selection of engagement rings. Think about how much you are willing to spend and take into account factors such as the quality of the stone, the type of metal and any additional costs for personalising the engagement ring.
But what is a realistic budget for an engagement ring?
It is said that many people spend one, or even up to three months' salaries on an engagement ring, but this is by no means a fixed rule. The most important thing is that you choose a budget that suits your financial situation and comfort level. There are engagement rings for every budget: from affordable options for a few hundred pounds to middle-class and also very exclusive designs. It is best to seek advice from an experienced jeweller to make an informed choice. Also take into account your partner's financial values and vision, so that the ring is not only beautiful, but also fits in with your joint financial picture.
Step 2: Choose the style that suits your partner
How will you find out about your partner's preference?
Do you want to find her or his dream ring? That sounds like quite a challenge, and we totally understand! Therefore, collecting subtle hints about your partner's preferences is crucial. Ask about her or his taste in a light-hearted way, consult friends or family, or pay attention to the daily jewellery she or he wears. Does she prefer gold, silver or a combination of both? Does your friend like striking designs or a minimalist style? These details will help you choose the perfect ring that suits her or his style.
Styles to consider
From classic to modern, minimalist or vintage: engagement rings come in countless styles. Pay close attention to what your partner wears on a daily basis. Does he or she like to combine silver and gold, or would they prefer not to? Do they prefer striking jewellery or subtle, discreet pieces? By paying attention to this you will get a better idea of her or his personal taste.
Our tip: collect examples
Ask your boyfriend or girlfriend's best friends or family to collect ideas via platforms such as Pinterest. This will give you a clear picture of her or his preferences, so you can take the next step with confidence.
Step 3: Decide on the type of gemstone
Diamond engagement rings and alternatives
Diamonds are popular because of their durability and timeless appearance. However, alternative gemstones such as sapphires and emeralds also make beautiful options.
What should you look for in a diamond?
When choosing a diamond, the 4 Cs (carat, colour, clarity and cut) are crucial. Together, they determine the quality and value of the stone.
The 4 Cs of a diamond
- Carat: The weight and size of the diamond.
- Colour: How colourless the diamond is. A D colour diamond is the most valuable.
- Clarity: Indicates how free the diamond is of imperfections.
- Cut: Determines how well the diamond reflects light.
Which ‘C’ is the most important?
The cut is often seen as the most important factor because it determines the brilliance of the diamond.
Certification at DiamondsByMe
At DiamondsByMe, every customer receives a certificate from a renowned laboratory such as GIA or HRD. This certificate guarantees that you are buying an authentic, high-quality diamond and are assured of an excellent investment.
Precious stones with meaning
Each gemstone carries a unique symbolic meaning. There is a wide range of diamonds, precious stones and semi-precious stones to choose from, each with their own appearance and story.
Here are some examples:
- Diamond: eternal love and strength
- Sapphire: fidelity and wisdom
- Emerald: hope and renewal
- Ruby: passion, courage and vitality
- ...
The colour palette
The colour palette to choose from or combine is larger than you might think. Whether you choose a classic clear diamond, a vivid sapphire, a warm ruby or a unique coloured semi-precious stone, colours add an extra personal and visual element to the ring.
Advice when choosing a gemstone
If you want to incorporate a gemstone into the design of your engagement ring, it is wise to do some research into its properties and meanings beforehand. Our experts are ready to advise you on this, so that you can choose a stone that is not only beautiful, but also carries a special message that suits you both.
Step 4: Choose the metal for the ring
Which metals are there for your engagement ring?
Popular choices are:
- Gold engagement rings: Available in yellow, white and rose gold. Ideal for a classic look. Gold engagement rings are available in white, yellow and rose gold. The classic gold engagement ring has a warm and timeless look, while rose gold is known for its romantic, soft hue. Each type of gold has a unique character and offers various possibilities.
- Silver engagement rings? We only use white gold for our engagement rings, not silver. People often look for silver wedding rings when they actually mean white gold. A white gold engagement ring is considerably more durable than a silver ring and also has a more luxurious appearance. For this reason, we do not make silver rings, but choose exclusively white gold for our engagement rings.
- Platinum engagement rings: Platinum is a luxurious and durable material for engagement rings, known for its rarity and natural white colour that does not discolour. It is stronger than gold and wears less quickly, making it ideal for a ring that will last a lifetime and retain its elegant appearance. Another big advantage: platinum is hypoallergenic.
Step 5: Determine the ring size
How do you determine the right ring size?
Use an existing ring that your partner wears as a reference or have the size taken at a jeweller's. It is better to have a ring made slightly larger than too small.
Tips for a good fit
A ring should be comfortable and not too tight. Take into account factors such as the weather, because fingers are often a little thicker in the summer.
Measuring the ring size
Does your partner already have a ring that fits well on the right finger? Then you're in luck!
- What if she's not wearing her ring? Then measure the inside of the ring with a ruler and let us know.
- You can also send the ring to us and we will measure it for you.
- Order a ring sizer online to easily determine the size yourself.
- Visit a local jeweller to have the ring size professionally measured.
On which hand do you wear the engagement ring?
On which finger do you wear the engagement ring?
In the Netherlands, most women wear their engagement ring on the ring finger of their left hand. The romantic idea behind this is that this finger is directly connected to their partner's heart. After the wedding, the ring is often moved to the right hand so that it can be worn together with the wedding ring.
3D replica ring
DiamondsByMe offers a unique service that allows you to try on jewellery before you buy it. With 3D-printed jewellery replicas, you can assess the size, fit and appearance before you make a final choice. You can order one of these 3D plastic replica rings for as little as 15 euros.
Our tip: delivery
Have the 3D replica ring delivered to a pick-up point to avoid getting caught.
Step 6: Design your engagement ring
Designing an engagement ring
From solitaire to halo and vintage styles, there are countless designs to choose from. A timeless design, such as a solitaire engagement ring, suits almost every taste.
Make it unique
Consider personal details, such as an engraving or a special setting. This makes the ring extra special. At DiamondsByMe you can have your own design made and customised.
Consider personal details such as an engraving or a special setting. This makes the ring extra special.
The effect of personalisation
A personalised ring shows attention and love and makes the proposal even more special. At DiamondsByMe we offer extensive possibilities for personalisation and unique designs.
Step 7: Plan the marriage proposal
Plan the perfect moment
Think about a setting and location that suits your relationship. This could be an intimate dinner or an adventurous surprise.
Tips for an unforgettable proposal
- Make sure you keep it a secret!
- Arrange for a photographer or videographer to capture the moment.
- Choose a location that is meaningful to you.
Frequently asked questions about engagement rings
The price of an engagement ring varies greatly and depends on factors such as the chosen metal, the gemstone and the design. There is no set rule for how much you should be spending. The most important thing is that the ring fits within your budget and is valuable to you and your partner.
This varies per culture and tradition. In the Netherlands and many other Western European countries, the engagement ring is usually worn on the left hand. In some other countries, such as Germany and Russia, the ring is worn on the right hand.
An engagement ring is traditionally worn on the ring finger, which is the fourth finger of the left or right hand. This custom stems from the old belief that a ‘vena amoris’ (vein of love) runs directly from this finger to the heart.
Many people continue to wear their engagement ring together with their wedding ring, usually on the same finger. Others wear the engagement ring on the other hand or have the ring adapted into a new piece of jewellery. Ultimately, it is a personal choice!
You can buy an engagement ring from a regular jeweller, an online jeweller such as DiamondsByMe, where you can have a unique, custom-made engagement ring designed. Or you can buy from specialised jewellery brands. It is important to choose a reliable seller with high-quality materials and good service. That is exactly what makes DiamondsByMe so unique: our customer focus and expertise. We offer you the opportunity to design the ring yourself from start to finish.
Conclusion
Choosing the perfect engagement ring is a special journey. By following these 7 steps, you are sure to find the ideal engagement ring for your partner. Do you still need more help with the design or advice on the choice? Feel free to get in touch with our experts. We are happy to help!
